Years ago, while trekking through rice fields in Vietnam, a woman joined us. We didn’t share a language, but her hands told me everything I needed to know. Hands lined with years of experience. Hands that carried wisdom in every gesture. I didn’t know it then, but I was photographing the very truth I would discover about myself years later.

Has anyone asked you what made you happy today?

Or what you’ve learned in your life so far?
Or what you want your legacy will be?
Most people never get asked those questions.
So I’ll go ahead and ask them for you.

These questions have been swirling around in my heart lately, especially as I notice time moving faster and the truth settling in that I want to make the rest of my life matter in a very intentional way.
And then something happened this week that brought all of this into clear, beautiful focus.

A Zoom Call That Opened My Eyes

Our friend and colleague, Kelly, invited Thom and me to speak on Zoom to a group of USC students who are training t...

A few weeks ago, I boarded a long, grueling flight to the South Pacific to visit five of my eight grandchildren who live on a small island in Vanuatu. It took almost 20 hours of flying, four airports, an overnight stay, and more than one sleepless night.

And honestly? I wouldn’t trade a minute of it.

Because this is what I mean when I talk about aging boldly. Not skydiving or climbing Everest (though if that’s your thing, go for it). But staying curious. Saying yes to adventure. Doing what brings you alive, even when it stretches you.

And believe me, I said yes to a lot on this trip.

Headstands on the Beach

We did our traditional headstands, something we’ve been doing together since they were tiny and needed to be held up by a parent or the nearest wall. This time, we lined up on the beach, the girls flipping upside down beside me. Little Louise watched with wide eyes, then insisted on trying her own wobbly version, me holding her upside down. Seeing all of us upside down toge...

In just a few days, I’ll be 75 years old...and honestly, that number still surprises me.

Not because I feel old (I don’t), but because there were so many things I didn’t know about getting older. There are so many things I wish someone had told me.

Here’s what I know for sure: Aging is not something to fear. It’s a privilege. It’s a time of stepping into your power, shedding old expectations, and finally...finally...living for you.

I wish more women knew that. I wish we didn’t waste so much time doubting ourselves, waiting for permission, or holding back our voices.

Because at some point, whether you’re ready or not, a switch flips.

It’s the moment when you realize you are done with being spoken to with disrespect, swallowing your words just to keep the peace, and staying quiet to avoid looking “difficult.”

And here’s what I wish more women knew: People respect you more when you start speaking your truth.

Damn, I wish I had known this sooner.

1. Know how to say no. And don’t gi...

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