When it comes to working on self-care, all of us have different aspects of ourselves that we aren’t fully aware of. It could be personality traits, feelings, or actions.
These blind spots can really hamper our self-care efforts. This is why it's so important to become fully aware of them. Let's look at some of the most common blind spots you may discover with making sure your self-care is in place.
A lot of people hate conflict, but sometimes it's needed to resolve situations. If you tend to avoid conflict, it means you’ll often do or say things you don’t necessarily agree with. This is a common blind spot that can really derail your self-care efforts.
The trouble is, when you give in to others just to avoid conflict, it reduces your credibility. You’ll also find you are frequently miserable due to not standing firm in your own beliefs and values. So, if your blind spot is avoiding conflict, it’s important to address it.
Do you have toxic people in your life you just can’t seem to let go of? Whether it's a friend, partner, or family member, associating with toxic people is going to really hurt your self-development.
If you learn to let toxic people go, it’s going to significantly improve your life. You’ll be happier and much more able to make positive changes in your life. It’s hard to remain positive in life when you're surrounded by negativity and people who are "wet blankets."
So, assess the relationships in your life and if there is a toxic person around you, work on distancing yourself and instead surround yourself with positive role models.
Frequently running late might not sound like a problematic blind spot in self-care. However, it could be negatively impacting various aspects of your life. When you're known for being late, it lowers your trustworthiness. This can negatively impact your personal relationships, as well as lead to issues at work.
In terms of self-care, this trait can make it harder to stick to certain changes you make. For example, you may find it more difficult to stick to a schedule you set yourself. Plus it begins a vicious circle of stress and not enough time for yourself.
If you tend to be an impatient person, you may find self-care more challenging. This is because you might not see big results overnight. It takes time to adopt new habits and see the benefits of self-care. So, if you’re impatient, you might give up before you’ve experienced the benefits of your hard work.
When you're impatient, it's easy to get frustrated when you don’t see instant results. So, working on becoming more patient as you start your self-care journey is essential if you want to keep it up. The process of becoming easier on yourself leads to self-compassion.
These are some of the most common blind spots you’ll experience when working on self-care.
Identifying your blind spots will help you to reduce the challenges of self-care and make you much more likely to succeed with any changes you make.
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