Learning To Love My Silver Hair And Wrinkles

Except when her mother would give her home permanents.

This process involved bobby pins and strong chemical smells ending with curls in a swirl around her head.

Her bangs were cut straight across the middle of her forehead.

She hated it.

She wanted long hair but her mother wouldn’t allow it.

Why do mothers do this to their children?

One day that little girl grew up

Her grown-up self today glances in the mirror and asks…

“Who is that woman in the mirror?”

“When did the wrinkles come and when did my hair turn silver?”

The little girl inside herself never really thought about how her face would change.

She never thought that her face would be like her grandmother’s. She for sure didn’t think about wrinkles.

Today this grownup woman listens to those younger parts of herself say:

“Wow, what happened to your face?”

“What are those lines on your face and where did they...

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What’s Their Secret? Two People Who Are Doing This Pandemic Well

Are you one of those people who have stayed upbeat and resilient during this unprecedented time in history?

I live in a place that’s easy to be in quarantine. It’s easy to get organic veggies because I live surrounded by farms.

It’s safe in my house, I can order groceries online. I can go for a walk, I have a garden.

I am privileged.

And yet, on some days I’m fighting the urge to scream because I can’t really go anywhere. Or hug my grandchildren. Or I get bored with being home. 

These are champagne problems.

Two people I know are positive and upbeat despite living in very tough circumstances.

Theirs are not champagne problems.

One of them is my eldest son, Andrew

 Right now Andrew is stuck on a tiny, nearly deserted island about halfway between Hawaii and Australia. 

Andrew’s shipping business is located in Vanuatu, another island nation in the South Pacific.

His business involves moving construction materials and heavy machinery...

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Privileged And Safe: Reflecting On My Childhood In The South

These days I’ve been noticing that I don’t know what to say. To the people who have been silenced for so long.

I see their rage and fury.

I know these feelings are deeply rooted in our collective history. I grew up in South Georgia, in a small town called Millen, in the 50s and 60s.

I knew even as a child that I had rights and privileges that black people did not have.

No one had to say the words out loud that they thought blacks were inferior (although many did).

I could never understand the inequity or the reason for this kind of thinking. I’m ashamed that this was the ideology I grew up around. I am sick to my stomach that these were the messages I received.

Two water fountains. .

Growing up in the South

I was taught to just accept things as they were.

“Colored people are separate and less than whites.”

This is the way was. No explanation.

I use the word ‘colored’ because this was the word that was used at the time.

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5 Ways To Make Your Journal Your Best Friend

“The only thing I have done religiously in my life is keep a journal, I have hundreds of them, filled with feathers, flowers, photographs, and words – without locks, open on my shelves." 

Terry Tempest Williams

1. Get creative 

This is Kate and me on safari in Africa, having fun with our journals!

Fill your journals with stickers, use colorful pens, paint in your journal… nothing is off limits. Let your creativity take over, be playful and have fun.

2. Use images from magazines

Cut out images that speak to you. Imagine that a picture of a young child is your younger self and you “talk” to this part in your journal… it can lead to great insight.

3. Choose your favorite quotes

"I believe, every day, you should have at least one exquisite moment."

Audrey Hepburn

Maybe they are quotes from your favourite people or maybe they are around a theme, like forgiveness or confidence, or issues that are important to you. 

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Self-Visualization To Get You Sleeping Soundly

 

We all know how important sleep is for our health. When we're anxious and busy, it can be very hard to fall asleep at night. This week's audio guide will help you relax and get to sleep. So get comfy and enjoy...

This is the third audio guide in a series that I have designed to support you through this challenging time. Listen to my first podcast on reducing stress.

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8 Reasons Why You Need To Journal Now In This Pandemic

“Who writes journals? Women who live deeply and reflectively, who regard lives as modern mythic quests and spiritual journeys, women who want to find their own voices and write their own lives.”

Marlene Schiwy, A Voice of Her Own

Journaling isn't like keeping a diary

Many people think that a journal is a diary. This is what I thought many years ago.

But a journal is so much more than keeping track of your daily events.

A journal is a conversation with yourself… your true self.  

Journaling is a time to focus on what you love, what you hate, what you fear, what you long for.

It’s a way of knowing yourself on a deep level.

An answer to feeling unstructured and directionless

With everything that’s happening in this unpredictable and scary world, now is the best time to keep a journal to help you deal with your emotions and thoughts.

For many, you are on a sort of ‘pause’ with many activities cancelled or on hiatus during the...

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What's an online retreat? Top 5 questions answered and 3 myths debunked

Taking time for yourself with my online retreat could lead to the greatest transformation you'll ever have

During this unprecedented time, you will be under more pressure. 

You might be stuck at home with the Covid-19 restrictions, and having to deal with being around your family 24/7.

You might be trying to juggle work and family.

You might be a caregiver, responsible for your children or your parents.

You might be facing uncertainties in your career or future. 

You might be alone struggling to find ways to deal with loneliness and how to connect with others.

Either way, you're dealing with more pressure which is creating more stress and anxiety.

This makes it even harder to solve problems, be patient with your loved ones, and concentrate at work. It makes it harder for you to stop and listen to what it is you need and want right now.

This is where I can help.

My online retreat for women is designed to give you the structure,...

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Meditation to restore balance and calm

 

This week I guide you through an exercise that grounds you to the earth and helps focus your energy back inwards, to restore balance and calm. 

This is the second audio guide in a series that I have designed to support you through this challenging time. Listen to my first podcast on reducing stress.

I always welcome your thoughts, experiences and feedback, so please sign up (below) to my mailing list to stay connected. 

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Part 2: How not to panic when you’re stuck in lockdown in a foreign country

If you missed Part 1 of our adventures, you can read it here.

Back in Auckland and the country moves into lockdown

On Tuesday 24 March we landed in Auckland from Christchurch, a bit harried and very grateful. But our flight back to San Francisco wasn't for another five days, and New Zealand was preparing for total lockdown.

It was an hour by hour world we were in and no one seemed to know what would happen next.

Would planes fly? The response from everyone we spoke to was that no planes would fly in or out once the country was in lockdown, within the next 48 hours.   

We decided to go directly to the Air New Zealand counter and see if we could change our reservations to an earlier flight - maybe we could even get a flight out that night. (As stressed as we had been, it didn’t deter Thom from taking pictures.)

We had another surprise as we approached the international terminal. There was a long line at the...

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Free podcast: reducing stress in difficult times

 
Welcome to my first podcast in a series where I will be looking at ways in which you can restore some structure into your daily routine, find calm and reduce stress during this particularly difficult period. 

This week, I guide you through a self-visualization that will help you to solve problems and deal with anxiety more effectively. 

I always welcome your thoughts, experiences and feedback, so please drop me a line at [email protected]

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